Many people seem to think that the best way to kill a relationship is to go cold turkey. When being with someone is too much to bear, they cut them off immediately. Delete their contact; block them on Facebook; erase all the conversations.
But that only brings about more hurt. A vaccum is created in your life, in your emotions. And we all know what happens when there’s a vaccum. Our brain needs to restore order, peace, balance. We want to fill that void. We go crawling back to them. Or we seek out new relationships — which only serves to remind us how happy those memories were.
The best way to kill a relationship is to let the two ends drift apart slowly. Let the other party think you’re boring; you’re no longer what they want; you no longer give them the feelings and things they’re looking for. Then they’ll start thinking you’re the wrong one. And eventually, they too allow the drift to happen, and voila! The relationship is killed, and both of you are free to walk.
The problem with this method is, you have to let the other party think you’re boring. Which… admittedly, can be a problem to your ego. You don’t want them to stop seeing you in good light. You don’t want them to think you’re boring. No. You want them to miss you; to continue loving you; to keep thinking of you.
If so, then be the one who initiate the break. But you better damn well be prepared for the effect it can have on you as well.
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